Added: Zacarias Muldoon - Date: 06.10.2021 16:17 - Views: 17264 - Clicks: 2403
Even the smallest sin divides, while purity ignites true love. Of those who flounder in the sea of permissiveness and self-indulgence, are there any who still search the sky for the beacon of purity? If I did not believe there were, I would not bother to write. I used to take for granted that everyone knew that making out is sexually arousing, especially for a guy.
But I have met women who act surprised when they find out that a man is sexually aroused by passionate kissing or before then. Making out is deeply unitive, since the penetration of one person into another is part of becoming one with him or her physically. Therefore, this type of kissing teases the body with desires that cannot be morally satisfied outside of marriage.
For the couple that is saving sex for marriage, passionate kissing is like a fifteen-year-old sitting in a car in his driveway, revving up the engine while keeping the car in park because he knows he does not have the to drive. I believe that the moral problem with making out is harder for girls to understand, because they tend to be aroused sexually in a more gradual way than guys.
Sensual reactions in guys tend to be more immediate, and when the flame of sexual arousal is ignited, a man often wants to go further. He might be content for some time with just kissing. But when a couple have passionate make-out sessions and try to draw the line there, one of two things will eventually happen: either the original boundaries will disappear, or frustration will set in. In the one case, sexual arousal will become routine, and the couple will begin to justify new forms of physical intimacy.
Perhaps they will stop the first, second, or third time, but gradually the old boundaries will be pushed back because they begin to experience the intoxicating bonding power that God has in store for couples in marriage. I often receive e-mails from abstinent couples who say that they really love each other and want to stay pure, but they keep falling again and again into the same sexual sins. They have stirred up that desire, and they are finding that such desires are not easily tamed once they are awakened. The more of ourselves we give away, the less we value the gift of our body and our entire self and people will respond by treating us with less respect as well.
Ask yourself what your kisses are worth. Are they a way to repay a guy for a nice evening? Are they a solution to boredom on a date?
Are they a way to cover up hurts or loneliness? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we have forgotten the purpose of a kiss and the meaning of intimacy. If we realize this, the simplest of kisses becomes priceless and brings more closeness and joy than one-night stands.
The profound meaning and depth of simple acts of affection are slowly lost. So before you go there again, consider saving the passion for your bride or groom. Not only will your purity be a gift to your spouse, but it will make his or her affection seem more unique to you as well. Now I wish I had reserved such kisses for my bride, instead of dispensing them to girls I never saw again after graduation. I just looked at the classmates around me and figured that this was the way life was supposed to be. When my relationships matured and deepened and I began taking them to prayer, I gave up this kind of kissing because it would always ignite the desire to go further.
It was also pushing other aspects of the relationship to the side. I knew in my heart that I could not say with confidence that this kind of intimacy was pleasing to God. So I had a talk with a girlfriend at the outset of a relationship, and we agreed to sacrifice that. This was a huge blessing, and I was immediately able to see that the relationship was more holy and joyful. We were not perfect, but I saw for the first time that the more passionate kissing there was in my relationships, the less there was of everything else.
This was not something I could understand until I gave it up. I encourage you to give it a shot. Give up passionate kissing until you are married. Keep the affection simple. If you have a difficult time accepting this, then have the honesty to ask yourself why. If you could not make out with your boyfriend, would that hinder your ability to love him?
Would not being able to kiss your girlfriend in this way hinder your ability to glorify God or to lead her to heaven? Simply put, sexual morality is about glorifying God with your body. The way you use your sexuality should reflect your love for God and should express the love of God to others. If an area seems gray, then do not go there. Do only those things that you confidently know glorify God.
If you struggle with this issue, take it to prayer. If you truly wish to know the will of God as it relates to purity, I know he will show you. You just have to sit still long enough to listen. Sure, this is difficult, but love is willing to sacrifice big things as well as small ones for the good of the beloved. More and more often I hear of couples who save their first kiss for the wedding day.
At first this sounded crazy to me, but then I noticed that they were not giving up kissing on the lips because it was evil or because they could not control themselves but because they cherished a simple kiss so much that they wanted God and the world to witness their first one. Their first kiss could be offered as a prayer. With all this having been said, we should not be stuck on how close we can get to sin.
When our hearts are right with God, we are concerned with what is truly pure and how we can glorify God with our bodies. We want every act of affection to be a reflection of the fact that he is first in our lives. Your information is secure. How To Stay Pure Pornography, etc. Share this with a friend.Do you love to make out
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